I was a bit afraid that something happening with my LCD so I asked some friends. We agreed that the black area on the sun/shadow area on that map is not really realistic and there shouldn't be that many black shadows there. One of my friend told me though that its not black for him. However it turned out he had almost maxed out brightness set on his monitor that's why he saw more grey shadows than black.
I understand its mostly personal reference and how people look at it, that is why its strange for me that people say its fine, not dark. But I have to accept it, not everyone got sensitive eyes.
@ninjafada: Yes, thanks for that gradiant.png, its also a good tool to see that my monitor is perfectly fine. The gradient on my screen got 100% black only around the red line I set in my screenshot to prove to you guys my lcd is perfectly fine. The red line I set is the rough area where I see that there are no more (or non-visible) gradient anymore.
https://flic.kr/p/oTd49q Don't mind the bad quality I saved the picture as a gif to reduce the quality.
Not sure about the Rev though. Bought it around 2007 or 2008 don't know exactly.
So all in all: comparing ANY KIND of shadow drawing and blackness drawing between bf3 and other games, bf3 got seriously wacky dark crazy shadows. Even if I set ultra shadow quality there are still unreasonably dark black shadows. Not on all maps though like played one of the night map recently and surprisingly that was fine LOL.
I'll try to fiddle with the settings but I doubt I can improve on the shadow darkness that much in BF3. I let you know what I came up with and prob. copy my settings to BF3 because I really don't like any of the settings in sweetfx bf3 preset area.